“Judging someone does not define who they are; it defines who you are.” ~ Joyce Meyer
Whether you want to admit it or not, we live in a society that promotes individuality in a vacuum. The moment that someone thinks, speaks, or even dresses outside of “norm”, they get judged or even worse — pushed out of companies, communities, and circles that haven’t given them a real chance.
For example, let’s pretend there’s a new coworker that just started at your company. While she may seem nice, you quickly make assumptions about her based solely on her tattoos, and a different sense of style. Next thing you know, you’re excluding her from lunches, happy hours, and projects for which she’s more than qualified…all because you’ve chosen to ride the judgment train.
In other words, by judging a book by its cover, you not only miss out on someone’s story but also on valuable insights and lessons that can benefit you as an individual. And if you still need a little extra convincing on why you should get off the judgment train, here’s 3 more reasons why judging others only sets you back in the long run.
- It perpetuates negative stereotypes in society — whether it’s based on appearance, gender, race, or any other attribute, judging only perpetuates stereotypes that keep the vicious cycle of judgment going strong. And while it may seem harmless to poke fun at something small, I promise you that it no longer feels small or harmless when you’re the one being negatively stereotyped.
- It encourages you to be your own worst critic — if you’re judging others, there’s a good chance you’re judging yourself, too. Because at the end of the day, judging someone else has less to do with who they are, and more to do with who you are. Instead of beating yourself up for your weaknesses, take the time to figure out how you can strengthen them to help you unlock your most authentic self.
- It makes your company lose out on value — when you judge someone without giving them a real chance, not only do you miss out on benefits on a personal level, but your company misses out on the added value that diversity can bring into the workplace like better team performance, decision making, and innovation to name a few.
And if you’re one of the folks that are constantly feeling like you’re the one being judged for being different, remember that you have every right to be the first one that cuts ties with companies, communities or circles that aren’t willing to accept you for being the real you.