“One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.” ~ Shannon L. Alder
Even if you’re not aware of it, there’s a good chance you’ve learned to measure your value based on outside factors like your educational, professional, or even financial achievements. But the truth of the matter is, your real value is defined by what YOU think, feel, and believe about yourself…not what degree you have, the title in your email signature, or whether your boss thinks you deserve that promotion.
It wasn’t until I became crystal clear about what I honestly thought, felt, and believed about myself that I got to a place of authenticity to see the great value I innately have. And the best part is that as long as you’re willing to do the inner work, the very same shift can happen for you.
So, please do me a solid (but more importantly, do it for yourself) and stop measuring your inner-worth based on external factors that only make you feel less worthy in the end. And then read on for 3 things you can start doing to make you feel more valuable and worthy instead.
Invest in yourself — whether you want to be a better leader or friend, take the time to address weaknesses and then do the work that needs to be done to improve the skill you’ve identified as needing to improve. For example, if you’re looking to grow as a leader, a significant way to invest in yourself could be signing up for the latest leadership conference in town, getting a related book, or listening to a related podcast about the same topic.
Find ways to add value to others — if there’s anything this pandemic has taught me, it’s that we are stronger together. That’s why it has never been more important to carve out time to add some value to others. From dropping off donations and volunteering at various outdoor events to helping someone update their resume after being laid off, there’s no shortage of ways you bring value to others.
Know your worth — no matter how tempting it might seem, remember the difference between what you’re getting and what you deserve. And if that means leaving a long-term relationship or job that makes you unhappy, trust me when I say that sometimes walking away is one of the best things you can do.
Now for the fun part…pick one of the three points above and take a small action step toward redefining your value today. Maybe there’s a business course you’ve been putting off, a PPE donation for a small business you keep meaning to drop off, or a job (wait for it) you’ve been riding out for way too long. Whatever it is, take action and then share how it made a difference for you.